Podcast Episode #27 - You’re Not Scared of Change. You’re Scared of What Comes Next
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[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome back to yet another inspirational podcast episode brought to you by yours truly, Carina. I'm your truth speaker, truth seeker, truth keeper, and I am so glad that you're here with me today
Hey, it's Carina, and welcome back to Soul Medicine. This episode is for the woman who knows she's ready. You've done the reflecting, you've had the insights, you can feel that something in your life no longer fits, and yet you're still waiting. [00:01:00] Waiting to feel calmer, waiting to feel braver, waiting for the moment where it feels safe enough to move.
By the end of this episode, you'll understand why readiness doesn't always lead to movement, what your nervous system is actually doing at this edge, and how to stop mistaking pause for failure. Because right now, so many women are standing at thresholds. Old identities are collapsing, old roles no longer work, and the body is quietly saying, "I don't know how to be here yet."
In a moment, we're gonna talk about the hidden reason you're still waiting even though you know it's time. And while you're here, make sure to follow Soul Medicine so you don't miss the next part of this conversation. These episodes build on each other, and if you're in a season of becoming, you'll want to stay close.[00:02:00]
There's a particular kind of frustration that comes when you're no longer confused, but you're still not moving. You're not lost, you're not in denial, you're not avoiding the truth. You can see the truth. You know the relationship has changed. You know the role you've been playing is too small now. You know the version of you that survived is not the one who's meant to lead the next chapter, and yet you hesitate It's like standing at the edge of a river you know you have to cross, but your body won't step in.
You keep telling yourself, "I just need a bit more clarity. I just need to feel more confident. I just need one more sign." But beneath that waiting is something quieter [00:03:00] and heavier, a sense that if you move, everything will change Here's the truth no one names. Readiness is a cognitive experience. Movement is a nervous system experience.
You can know it's time and still feel frozen because your body isn't asking, "Is this logical?" It's asking, "Is this safe?" And for women who have been the strong ones for too long, safety has often meant holding it together, not rocking the boat, carrying the weight quietly, being the one others rely on. So when change arrives, even desired change, your nervous, your nervous system doesn't celebrate, it braces.
[00:04:00] Waiting becomes a form of protection, not because you're weak, but because at some point in your life, staying still kept you intact. This isn't procrastination, it's preservation And I want you to notice what happens in your body when you imagine choosing yourself
What does that look like for you firstly?
Okay? And not thinking about it, but actually choosing yourself. What happens in your body when you imagine doing that?
Do your shoulders tighten? Does your breath shorten? Does your chest feel heavy or hollow? That sensation is the old contract [00:05:00] activating. The one that says, "If I move, I'll disappoint someone. If I stop being strong, everything will fall apart. If I choose myself, I'll be alone"
Your body learned these rules long before your mind ever questioned them so of course you're waiting you're not stuck at the edge because you don't want to move or you don't want more. You're stuck because part of you is still protecting the life you survived. Here's the m- remembering I want to offer you.
You are not paused because you're failing. You are paused because you're between identities. The woman you were cannot take you where you're going, but the woman you're becoming hasn't fully landed in your body yet. This is not collapse, this is compost, and just because [00:06:00] it was doesn't mean it will be.
You are allowed to move slowly when you're shedding an old skin. You are allowed to need support when you're learning a new way of being. This is the space I hold in my work. I help women who have been the strong ones for too long come home to themselves through emotional attunement, truth work, and gentle nervous system support.
Not pushing you forward, not rushing your clarity, and not leaving you stranded at the edge. Reiki works beneath the story where your body has been holding its breath for years. Tarot gives language to what you already feel but haven't been able to name, and coaching supports you through the stretch between who you were and who you're becoming.
This work isn't about forcing [00:07:00] change. It's about helping your body feel safe enough to choose. If you're standing at a threshold right now, you don't have to stand there alone And I'd like to drop into the body for just a moment. Okay, and let's anchor this in and invite you to place one hand on your chest, one hand on your belly, and take a slow breath in through your nose And exhale through your mouth.
Now gently ask your body, not your mind, "What am I waiting for that no longer gets to decide for me?"
You don't need an answer. Just notice what softens when you ask
[00:08:00] And here's what I want you to carry this week with you. Waiting is not wrong, but waiting doesn't have to be lonely. You're not behind, you're at the threshold. And when you're ready to sit in the discomfort, I'll be here ready and waiting. Before I go, I want to say thank you to those of you who follow this show, who listen quietly, who share episodes with women you know need this medicine right now.
I feel your support more than you know. This work moves because you pass it on. If this episode resonated, follow Soul Medicine so you don't miss what's unfolding here. These conversations are designed to walk with you, not rush you. And if your body is craving deeper support, you can explore working with me through Reiki, tarot, or one-to-one coaching.
I also hold [00:09:00] a small, intimate online women's circle, and the next one is Wednesday, 11th of February at 7:00 PM Australian Eastern Daylight Savings Time via Zoom. You'll find all the details in the show notes if your body says yes. Until next time, be gentle with the part of you that's learning how to choose differently.
With love, Carina.