Podcast Episode #28 - You Already Know the Truth. You Just Keep Overriding It
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[00:00:00] Hello, and welcome back to yet another inspirational podcast episode brought to you by yours truly, Carina. I'm your truth speaker, truth seeker, truth keeper, and I am so glad that you're here with me today
Hey, it's Carina, and welcome back to Soul Medicine. If you've ever felt that quiet knowing in your body only to immediately talk yourself out of it, if you've ever known something was off or right or true and still [00:01:00] overridden yourself, this episode is for you. In the last few episodes, we've been unpacking hyper-independence, intuition, and why so many women struggle to ask for help or hear their inner voice clearly.
Today, we're going one layer deeper. By the end of this episode, you'll understand why you don't trust yourself even when you're right, where that self-doubt actually comes from, and how to begin rebuilding self-trust from the body up, not through positive thinking or forcing confidence. This matters now because many of you are standing at a threshold.
You can feel something wants to change, but the moment you go to move, you freeze, second-guess, or hand your power away. In a moment, we're gonna name the quiet wound [00:02:00] underneath self-doubt, and I'll share what actually restores self-trust in a sustainable, embodied way. So stay with me. And if this podcast has been speaking to you lately, make sure you're following or subscribed so you don't miss what's coming next There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from not trusting yourself.
Not the loud, obvious kind, the subtle one. The kind where you feel something in your body, but immediately ask someone else what they think. Where you know the answer, but still Google it. Where you replay conversations, decisions, messages, wondering if you read it wrong, if you imagined it, [00:03:00] if you were being too much.
You tell yourself you're just being careful, rational, open-minded, but underneath that is a quiet ache
Why don't I trust myself anymore? And what makes it worse is this: much of the time you were actually right. Right about the person, right about the timing, right about the feeling in your gut, right about what you needed, and yet you still learned to doubt yourself
Here's the truth no one says clearly enough. You don't [00:04:00] distrust yourself because you're intuitive, but bad at using it. You distrust yourself because at some point, trusting yourself wasn't safe Self-doubt is not a personality flaw. It's a protective adaptation. Many women learned early that their perceptions were questioned, their emotions were minimalized, their reactions were labeled dramatic, their boundaries were inconvenient, their truth caused conflict, withdrawal, or punishment.
So you adapted. You learned to read the room instead of reading yourself. You learned to defer, [00:05:00] soften, explain, justify. You learned that staying connected often required staying quiet. And slowly, not consciously, you outsourced your authority Not because you're weak, but because you're relational, sensitive, attuned.
The problem is What once kept you safe now keeps you stuck
I want you to notice something Think of a moment where you knew something, a relationship that didn't feel right, a decision that felt heavy, a yes that felt forced, [00:06:00] a no that felt true
Now notice what happens in your body as you remember that moment
Do you feel a tightening? A sinking feeling? A bracing feeling
That sensation isn't confusion, it's memory. Your nervous system remembers what happened the last time you trusted yourself and the cost that followed. So now, even when truth rises cleanly in your body, your system asks, "Is it safe to listen this time?" This is why self-trust doesn't return through [00:07:00] affirmations.
It returns through safety, safety in the body, in the nervous system You don't need more confidence, you need more permission Here's what I want you to hear clearly. You are not bad at trusting yourself. You are careful with yourself And that care came from somewhere real. But just because self-doubt protected you once doesn't mean it gets to run your life now.
You are not here to live in constant self-interrogation. You are not here to shrink your knowing to keep the peace. You are not here to keep proving your intuition after the [00:08:00] fact. And just because it was, doesn't mean it will be Self-trust isn't loud. It's quiet, steady. It's the part of you that doesn't rush to explain This is the work I hold with clients, not teaching you what to do, but helping you come back into your own authority.
Reiki helps your nervous system soften enough to feel what's true again. Tarot gives language to what you already sense but can't yet name. And coaching helps you practice choosing yourself without collapsing into guilt or fear. Not so you become fearless, but so you become self-anchored. Because self-trust isn't about being [00:09:00] certain, it's about being with yourself when you're not So let's ground this Place one hand on your heart one on your lower belly And take a slow breath in
And a longer breath out
Now ask yourself gently, quietly
What do I already know that I keep pretending I don't?
Don't answer with words. Notice sensation
That first [00:10:00] response before the story arrives, that's your truth. Let it be enough
You don't rebuild self-trust by proving yourself right. You rebuild it by staying with yourself when it feels uncomfortable to do so. Self-trust grows every time you listen without abandoning yourself, every time you pause instead of override, every time you honor what you feel without asking for permission.
And when you're ready to sit in that discomfort, I'll be here ready and waiting Until next time lead with your truth, not your fear and remember just because [00:11:00] it was doesn't mean it will be again. With love Carina